Maybe It’s Not All In Your Head

If your car broke down, you would take it to a mechanic.

Sometimes it’s a good mechanic, and sometimes they are so-so.

And it can be hard to tell the difference…

It’s the same with your doctor. I think we have a cognitive bias that doctors know everything that they should AND come to the correct conclusion in your specific case.

It’s not true – doctors can be wrong.

“Doctors are like mechanics.”
— Geoff Martin

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3 Reasons You Should Still Become a Lawyer

There are a lot of people that will tell you not to become a lawyer.

  • Some of them are jaded law school graduates that didn’t get a big firm job
  • A few of them are actual lawyers
  • And too many of them are the “quit your job and pay me money to tell you what to do with your life, lol” folks

One thing these anti-lawyers all have in common is statements that sound really dire, “law schools are graduating thousands of debt-laden certificate holders every year and there are only hundreds of jobs available.”Continue Reading →

Beware Books with Subtitles

Awhile back I published a list of books I read; I wanted to be seen as someone that reads a lot of books.

And it works, friends would say “Michael, you read a lot of books.”

“I know”, I’d reply, nodding my head in smug agreement.

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“I don’t use laundry detergent” and 8 Other Things I Do Differently Than You

A few weeks back I submitted my website to a user experience app; it helps you understand what an unknown visitor is thinking by providing quick video reviews. The reviewer looked at my site, muttered “pretty typical content” and then went back to her weekend. For Julie H. in North Carolina that was just another Saturday, but for me it was mildly scarring. I refuse to publish ANYTHING that is typical, and today’s post is another example of me sharing focussed nonsense that you won’t read anywhere else. In today’s post I’m sharing 9 things I do differently than you; at best this may inspire you to reconsider your defaults, but more likely you will realize I’m a total weirdo. Here’s the list…Continue Reading →

An Open Letter to Humanity

Millions of years ago, your guppy ancestors crawled out of the mud, looked around and said “this will do.” A bold, but understandable decision. Prehistoric Earth was f***ing dope.

Fast forward and you’ve built everything. You have Michael Bolton, Google, Dorito factories, and baseball.

And yet so much of what you’ve built hasn’t been for humanity at all, but at it’s expense. You continuously degrade the only planet you’ve got, you are level zero at delaying gratification, and you treat each other like shit. As far as you know, you are the only advanced civilization in the universe – is this really the best you can do?

Here’s what I think…
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I Ripped Off Groupon’s Business Model And Made $8200

My first project that made any money was a website called SaveRally.

In early July, 2010 I built a business site for a custom home builder and he paid me $2000 for it.

I was determined to take that $2000, re-invest it in a website I could “flip” for a quick profit, and then take that money and build something bigger.

SaveRally was that intermediary flip.

Spoiler: I eventually sold SaveRally for $2600 and then quickly built a similar site and sold it for $5600. I had another $50,000+ in sales lined up, but they all fell through because I’m bad at sales.

Here’s the full story…
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10 Things I Want to Be Better At, In No Particular Order

#1: Acknowledging the Tension

Sometimes you talk to people and it’s butterflies and petunias, and sometimes it’s riddled with tension. Tension happens! And there is a spectrum of ways to deal with it, most of them less healthy than optimal. Maybe you get mad and fire back with more tension. Maybe you are like me circa 2011 and just go “tell me more”, “tell me more”, “okay, tell me more”, which is useful but obnoxious. Maybe you are the passive stone letting the river of tension wash over you, unwavering in your resolve.
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Team Cruise 2016

Seven friends and I did a Caribbean Cruise focussed on growth & productivity. Team Cruise 2016 included:

  • self-facilitated workshops on hacking psychology, aikido, functional relationships, overcoming chronic pain, unhinging creativity, life principles and “how to read Chinese good enough that you wouldn’t die if you got lost in China”;
  • a hostile takeover of karaoke night;
  • pre-meal base layers, aka we ate a shit tonne of spinach;
  • coconut harvesting in Grand Cayman and Mexico;
  • put put, ping pong and sauna talks;
  • curious artifacts: the Tripod of Stability, Harmonica of Silence, Medal of Awesomeness & Bandanas of Solidarity;
  • soooooo many level red icebreakers.

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nickgray.net Redesign

Nick Gray wanted to redesign his personal site, nickgray.net. The priorities were:

  • make the blog content more prominent;
  • let people sign up for his newsletter and social feeds;
  • give the site more of a thought leader vibe.

This post is a quick recap of the redesign including before and after shots.
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